How to Ask for and Take Feedback

Welcome back, everyone! Today, we’re diving into a topic that frequently sparks those “oh my god, why can’t people get out of their own way?” conversations I often have at dinner. We’re talking about how to ask for and take feedback. Next episode, we’ll cover how to give feedback effectively.

Feedback is one of those areas where many think they excel, yet few truly do, especially in the age of the internet, where feedback mechanisms can sometimes devolve into marketing ploys or avenues for venting personal frustrations. Remember when we could buy a toaster without consulting 25 strangers online? Neither do I.

Why Feedback Matters

Feedback is crucial; it challenges us to grow and improve, particularly in creative fields. But it’s an art, not just a set of algorithms.

How to Ask for Feedback Like a Pro

1. Be Discerning: Ask the right people. Don’t take a shotgun approach to feedback which leads to decisions based on a wide but irrelevant set of opinions.
2. Be Specific: Clearly outline what you need feedback on, including relevant context and what types of feedback you aren’t looking for.
3. Format Matters: If you’re writing, break up your text. Long paragraphs are daunting and often not fully read. Structuring your request can greatly influence the quality of feedback you receive.
4. State Your Biases: Be upfront about your attachment to the project and how much feedback you can realistically handle without feeling overwhelmed.
5. Be Prepared for the Response: Engage with the feedback you receive. This is not just about hearing what you want to hear, but also about learning from diverse perspectives.

How to Take Feedback

1. Understand the Source: Make sure the feedback is coming from someone relevant to your request. A spouse might be supportive but not the best critic for your business website if they lack the perspective of your target audience.
2. Separate Yourself from Your Work: This can be challenging, especially for creatives and solopreneurs, but it’s crucial for growth.
3. Be Proactive: Do your research and ensure your work is as polished as possible before seeking feedback. This prevents basic questions that could have been answered with a little initiative.
4. Be Engaging: Respond thoughtfully to feedback. Ask follow-up questions and share how you’ve used the advice you’ve received. This respects the time of those who helped you and enriches the community.

Conclusion

Asking for feedback requires understanding both the context of your work and the perspectives of those you engage. Effective feedback is a tool for growth, illuminating blind spots and offering new paths forward. So, harness it wisely, and remember, every piece of feedback is a stepping stone to betterment.

Stay tuned for our next episode on giving feedback like a rock star, because mastering both sides of this process can dramatically enhance how we communicate and grow. Have a wonderful spring, and I’ll see you in a couple of weeks. Bye!